Presence
You may already understand the pattern. The question is whether a different experience has become possible.
You may understand yourself well and still respond in ways you wish you wouldn’t. Working harder on yourself can become another way to feel that you’re never enough. In coaching, we explore these patterns with curiosity and build the presence, self-trust and room to choose that make a different response possible. Available in person or online.
If you arrived through Eye of the Mountain, this is the one-to-one practice behind the writing.
Book a free 20-minute consultationJust noticing is the first step. Just noticing with someone else is the second.
My coaching is informed by the Integral Unfoldment paradigm developed by Steve March and taught through Aletheia. We begin by making fuller contact with your present experience and treating protective patterns as intelligent adaptations rather than defects.
Together, we may work with:
- emotional and relational patterns
- self-trust, discernment, boundaries and choice
- grief, purpose and life transitions
- remaining present with a wider range of feeling
- responding with less force, shame and automatic protection
When the old way stops working.
You may be burned out, scattered or unable to keep living by force.
You may be facing a major decision about work, relationship, purpose or the shape of your life.
You may understand your patterns clearly, but still feel unable to move differently when it matters.
You may feel disconnected from your body, your desire, your center or your own quieter knowing.
You may live with a harsh inner voice that confuses pressure with devotion.
You may be looking for deeper meaning, more confidence, more discipline, more creativity or a more honest relationship with your life.
You may not need advice as much as a steady place to listen for what is already trying to become clear.
Coaching testimonials
Practical change, grounded in attention.
“What Tommy was really good at was spotting my thinking patterns early on. But it wasn't just pointing them out—he'd give me concrete examples and actual daily practices I could use. Those were the actual practices I needed, not just the theoretical bits. He helped me become more present in my own thinking, paying attention to what I truly feel and believe instead of just what I say. I walked away understanding myself better and with actual tools I can use.”
“I've really enjoyed working with Tommy. His calm, gentle demeanour is grounding and supportive. I found the parts work awkward at first, but as I grew less embarrassed and more creative, I found it extremely useful in reducing anxiety and seeing unconscious beliefs that were limiting me. Tommy's style of coaching has been much more helpful to me than coaching that simply gives advice or homework—I typically don't do the homework or follow through with that style. What I really value about this approach is its focus on recognizing, accepting and integrating parts of myself. That unlocked far bigger change for me.”
“Being coached by Tommy has been a life-changing experience for me. He is helping me work through deep early childhood trauma that I've carried my whole life. I've spent 20 years working on these issues through peer counseling, but I've never experienced the kind of shift in my relationship with myself that I'm experiencing now. With Tommy's gentle, warm and supportive guidance, I am finally able to inhabit myself, my physical body and emotional experience in a way I never have before. I have a deeper sense of peace, well-being and patience with my healing journey. Above all, I've developed a new sense of hopefulness about my life.”
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Begin with a free conversation.
Start with a free 20-minute consultation by Google Meet. We can talk about what is bringing you here, what you hope will change and whether working together feels useful.
Sessions are conversational and experiential. We may slow down a live question, notice what happens in the body or work with different parts of your experience. The work is shaped around what becomes useful in the moment rather than a formula or generic homework. We also find ways to practice this between sessions, so what you discover here can support your everyday choices and relationships.
Ongoing coaching sessions are 50 minutes, available in Berkeley or online. I recommend meeting every other week, with time between sessions to practice and integrate.
Trauma-informed, not therapy.
My approach is not psychotherapy, diagnosis or clinical trauma treatment.
It is, however, deeply trauma-informed. I understand protective patterns as intelligent adaptations, not personal failures. We work slowly, collaboratively and with respect for the nervous system’s pace.
The aim is not to force a breakthrough but to create enough safety, contact and clarity for a different response to become possible.
Pricing
12-session package: $1,800 paid upfront ($150 per session). Meeting every other week makes this roughly a six-month commitment.
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